I’ve been IN IT lately. Have you?
On June 1st, Ryan, Creature, and I packed up our Sayulita apartment and drove clear across the country to start a new chapter in San Miguel de Allende, a UNESCO World Heritage site known for its art, rich history, and charming colonial beauty.
We chose to spend the summer in San Miguel because the cool, dry weather is a stark contrast to Sayulita’s intense heat and humidity.
Little did I consider how tough this new chapter was going to be.
Sayulita is my soul home.Â
It’s one of the few places in the world that feels like an expression of who I know myself to be.
I didn’t realize that in moving to San Miguel, it would feel as if a piece of my heart had been cleaved away from me.
While I’ve been gently tending to the highs and lows of my emotional wave, I’ve also been drowning in comparison and scarcity, only seeing what San Miguel lacks.
On Wednesday morning, I finally experienced a shift.
After picking up an iced Cáscara Latte from my favorite new cafe, I strolled towards a street I had yet to explore in the city.
With my headphones in and people swirling by, my inner coach bubbled up out of nowhere.
Wisely, she spoke: “Who is San Miguel Kayla?”
There was a pause before she continued: “What does her life look like? What does her routine look like? What does her business look like? Who is SHE?”
In a flash of clarity, I realized that I had been holding on too tightly to Sayulita Kayla.
Sayulita Kayla feels out of place in San Miguel.
She spins a story that she doesn’t belong, that it’s hard to live here, that this city isn’t HER.
The more my mind wound around this insight, the more it clicked and fell into place.
If you look at my human design chart, you’ll notice that I have six out of nine centers defined, including the identity center.
The more definition someone has in their chart, the more fixed they tend to be in their ways. With a defined identity center, I tend to be more solid and immovable in who I know myself to be.
—and, the solidness of Sayulita Kayla isn’t going to work in San Miguel.
Almost immediately, the helplessness I had been feeling lifted.
I decided then and there to take a page from the undefined identity center’s book and make a conscious effort to be more open to this new chapter and discovering who I am here.
Truly, who is San Miguel Kayla?
Instead of trying to fit Sayulita Kayla into San Miguel, what if I explored the parts of my identity that DO find expression here? What if I discovered different aspects of my identity here?
This same principle extends across all areas of life.
When you’re feeling powerless within your circumstances, yes—be gentle with yourself and honor your very real human experience—AND you don’t have to dwell there.
Powerlessness drains your energy and personal agency.
We must find a way to honor our experience, while also not forgetting to light the inner flame of resourcefulness to generate something new; something different.
If you’re currently struggling at the start of a new chapter OR you’re so ready to reclaim your personal power in order to create the next level of your soul-led life and business, I’ve got you.
I currently have space in my LIFE BY DESIGN coaching program to take on new clients.
Let’s explore if we’re a dream fit ✨
As I step into this new dimension of reinvention, I look forward to supporting you in yours as well 🤍
With love & agency,
-Kayla
P.S. Are you currently embarking on a new chapter in your life or business? What are your tips for navigating the transition? Share your insights in the comments ⬇️
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