Do you remember that annoying girl in high school who would preach about the dangers of underage drinking and drugging?
Or the partner who put you up on a pedestal and only chose to see the very best within you, even if you didn’t feel as awesome as s/he made you out to be?
Yup. That was me.
What was once my biggest flaw is now my greatest gift—the ability to see and cultivate the highest potential in those around me.
While this is a beautiful gift to have, I didn’t understand how to best utilize it when I was younger. Having this gift made my life feel dark and chaotic; it made me feel like I was flawed.
Here’s the thing: When someone isn’t ready or willing to cultivate their highest potential, holding them to it backfires. This is especially true when you have a tendency to attract friends and boyfriends who are lost, struggling, and in need of support, who also aren’t ready or willing to truly change.
The more I attracted these people into my life, coupled with the ability to see their highest potential and an inclination to help them be and do better, I set myself up to be the annoying friend who gave unsolicited advice and the annoying girlfriend who expected her partner to be the best he could be, even if he wasn’t ready to be.
As a result, I would find myself in familiar patterns with friends and boyfriends. They would keep things from me, flat out lie to me, or subconsciously push me away because they felt guilty when they weren’t, or couldn’t be, the best version of themselves.
Back then, I didn’t understand that my “biggest flaw” was actually my greatest gift.
All I understood was that I was heartbroken, angry, and had a character flaw. Can you imagine what it’s like to find out that your boyfriend had been doing hard drugs for months behind your back when you thought you had helped him recover from them?
I constantly questioned what was wrong with me and why this pattern continued to play out.
I didn’t catch on to what was happening until I decided to take up coaching. When I became a coach, I finally realized that my biggest flaw was actually a gift that I wasn’t channeling correctly.
For too many years, I was the annoying friend and girlfriend.
For too many years, I was trying to “fix” lost souls who weren’t ready or willing to change.
What caused me so much strife when I was younger turned out to be my greatest gift as coach. The difference is, as coach, I only work with people who are ready and willing to change.
When someone is ready and willing to change, can you imagine what it’s like to have someone by their side who can see their highest potential and hold them to it? To have someone who believes in them so deeply, that they have no choice but to believe in themselves?
It’s powerful!
Who knew my biggest flaw could be a strength under different circumstances.
What I really wish for you to take away is that it’s all in the way you choose to position and see your “biggest flaw.”
If you feel like you have a character defect or there’s something wrong with you, take a moment to dive in deeper. Do you really have a flaw? Or do you simply need to apply your “biggest flaw” in a more appropriate environment?
I’m willing to bet that you’re more gifted than you think you are. Don’t sell yourself short.
And if you need someone to see your highest potential, I will 😉
With love & perspective,
-Kayla
P.S. If you could use a coach who will hold you to your highest potential so you can step into the next level of your soul-led life and business, let’s chat. I’m here to help you transform your inner world so that you can create outer world success doing the work you love.
P.S.S. My biggest flaw made even more sense when I found out that I am a human design projector. It is quite literally my purpose to see into people and guide them towards their highest potential. Have you heard of human design? If you haven’t, or you’re curious to dive deep into your chart, check out my human design readings.
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