Self-discovery – Page 2 – Kayla MacArthur

March 8, 2020

Bali Silent Retreat

Mist hangs above the jungle in delicate swathes of silver. Beyond my narrow, single bed and the mesh canopy that fans around it, darkness is beginning to fill the cracks between the trees. The jungle and its night time noises grow louder. And I—I grow lonelier. I’ve spent two days with a group of people I do not know, and can not. We share space, hovering like ghosts at meal times, sitting in circle for meditation, resting soundlessly on cushions and couches that scatter the second floor lounge. We’re here, but we’re not. We’re not here for each other. We’re here for ourselves. Typically, this would be a dream for...

February 17, 2020

How Whole Are You?

Explore, Reinvent

“How whole are you?” I leaned back on the motorbike, as my sixteen year old Balinese driver pressed on with increasing speed through the winding jungle roads of Nusa Penida. When I didn’t answer, he repeated his question— “How whole are you?” “I need a moment to sit with that, Echo.” Surely, I thought, this must be a Balinese get-to-know-you question. In my own culture, it’s unusual to explore the depths of one’s wholeness at first acquaintance. But, however nonchalantly he asked, it had an impact. How whole am I? After a few moments of contemplation and gripping the back of his bike for dear life, I said, “I am...

February 9, 2020

Bali: A Lesson in Presence

Explore, Reinvent

I thought I was coming to Bali to work. It turns out, this couldn’t be more far from the truth. Here in Bali, life is different. “Ati ati” is a phrase I learned from one of my Balinese drivers. It means “slow ride” {according to his translation}. When he taught me this phrase, we were on our way to Canggu and he was referring to road speed, but I took it to mean something deeper. “Ati ati,” I repeated to myself, looking out over the vivid green of the rice fields rushing past. Slow ride. Slow ride indeed. Here in Bali, there is nowhere to get to—there is only THIS...

January 13, 2020

4 Things You Must Do the Next Time You Visit LA

Explore

If you’re like me, the times you’ve visited LA are becoming hard to count on both hands. Granted, most of the times I’ve visited have been to sunny Santa Monica, where I’ve attended a flurry of coaching intensives over the past few years. Regardless, when you visit a place frequently, each subsequent visit demands a level of exploration that will take you deeper than what you’ve previously experienced. —So, when my mom announced that she wanted to check the Rose Bowl Parade off her bucket list for her 60th birthday, I jumped into action, planning another, albeit more rounded trip to the magical land I love. Excited to explore the...

November 27, 2019

Do This One Thing And Your Life WILL Change

Create

When I was in fifth grade, I decided to play the flute. The first “composures” I learned were not composures at all. Rather, they were half notes and whole notes, sometimes strung together to form a tune. Next, it was the scales. Oh god—the scales. As I grew into middle school and private lessons, it was all about the scales. Up and down, my fingers flew. Memorizing this one and that one and this one again. In sixth grade, I advanced to second chair and soon after that, I passed an audition to play in the Worcester Youth Orchestra, practicing Tchaikovsky and Bach for the stage at Christmas. In seventh...

November 13, 2019

What Are You Committed To?

Create

Here’s what I’m committed to right now: Waking up by 7:30am.Meditating.Journaling on possibility. Starting work by 9:30am.Writing.Sharing my writing.Inviting all kinds of people to connect.Inviting people who inspire me into coaching conversations.Inviting people I vibe with to work with me.Astonishing my Clients. Doing my own inner work. Going to the gym. Tracking money.Paying for things in cash. Reading.Going to bed by 11pm. Notice: Everything on this list—it’s inside of my control. Too often, we attach our sense of accomplishment to results we have no control over. Then, when the results do not occur, we feel we failed and hopelessness replaces happiness, worthlessness shatters confidence, and fun fades to frustration. We...

August 2, 2019

Is Marketing Affecting Your Bottom Line?

Create

If you’re a new Coach {or any service-based business owner, for that matter} and you think you have a “marketing problem,” you most likely have an avoidance problem. For you, marketing is alluring.It promises the epic thriving practice you dream of; the one you imagined when you first signed up to be a Coach. Seriously— If only you could pinpoint your ideal Client with the right words, in the right way, they will FLOCK to you! If only you had a solid brand that stands out, Clients will trample your inbox WITHOUT you having to do a thing! If only you had an ad campaign and email funnel, Clients will sign up for your...

July 19, 2019

The Best Two Investments to Fill Your Coaching Practice

Create

Last month, I accomplished something BIG. And I didn’t share it. I intended to. Especially when it happened; when I was bursting at the seams with excitement. But then, like it tends to, the thrill of accomplishment faded and I had nothing left to fuel my words. I was also scared to share a win that might make you feel uncomfortable. But now, I want to share it {PROUDLY} because if I can do it, so can you. Last month, I officially filled my coaching practice! I booked an additional $22K in services in three weeks {a record for me} and I’ve had to start a waiting list! I’ve been...

June 21, 2019

What If You Made a Mess?

Reinvent

It’s been 40 minutes since our call started.And I still don’t see an opening to support you. I know what you want to create.You’re clear on that. You know how to get there.You’re confident in the path. Most Coaches would leave it here and declare you complete.Most Coaches would say, “Great! You know what you want, you know how to get there, now go off and get it done!” I’m not like most Coaches. Instead, I reflect what’s going on within me: “It sounds like you’ve got this. We’ve been talking for 40 minutes and I still don’t see how I can support you. I’m wondering why you raised your...

June 6, 2019

The Mirror You Want {But Don’t Want} To Look In

Reinvent

We sit across from each other. You speak and I listen. I listen deeply—for what is said beneath your words. First, you tell me about your business. You tell me how frustrated you are. How people hardly ever buy from you. How no one can afford your fees. You tell me about your Clients. How they’re driving you MAD because they’re not committed to change. They say they want this thing that you can help them get, but they’re unwilling to put in the work to get it. Next, you tell me about your dreams. You paint a beautiful picture of possibility. It’s vivid and BIG. It’s all you want…...