Boundaries - Kayla MacArthur

August 30, 2023

Having it All: The Unconventional Truth

What does it mean to “have it all?” In my world, I believe having it all has less to do with accomplishing more and everything to do with how fully we’re showing up as our true selves. Having it all is not a juggling act. It’s not committing to everything and everyone under the sun and then trying to figure out the most efficient and productive way to balance it all out. [Most of the time, having it all is about taking things OFF your plate]. In my world, in order to show up as our true selves, we must get crystal clear on what we value and what’s most...

October 29, 2022

The Call Back Home: A Return to What We’ve Lost

Travel

Feet sinking into sand. Sticky air. Heat kissing my face and arms. The sound of waves galloping to shore. Foamy fingers; bubbles popping.The call back home. Birds whistling. Palms rustling. Driftwood everywhere. The sharp scent of smoke. Salt and ash on my tongue. And the foul bowels of low tide. I am here, in my body, tasting every sense, one at a time. My phone is untouched in my backpack. There is no podcast playing. There is no book in my hands. It is just me and the ocean, her heartbeat thumping rhythmically with mine. As a collective, we are losing the experience of presence. The devices in our hands...

April 13, 2021

Going On a Trip? Bring Conscious Relating to Travel with These 7 Questions

Relationships, Travel

✈️ Before embarking on each new adventure, my partner and I have a conscious conversation designed to deepen our experience of a trip. Conscious relating is something we’ve been practicing since we met. When we first came together as virtual strangers to live as roommates in Mexico, there were a lot of unknowns. What if our personalities and lifestyles were vastly different? What if our daily routines clashed? What if we got on each other’s nerves and there was conflict? The typical response for me—and, I would assert for many others—is to brush these questions under the rug, let the trip unfold, and then deal [or not deal] with whatever comes up. ...

June 17, 2020

The Three Gods

Travel

One sunny morning in Canggu when Mark and I were waiting for his surf instructor, a Balinese woman appeared in the open space next to us and began blessing her storefront with the day’s offerings. She laid out colorful woven baskets, filled with flowers, incense, and bits of rice. Curls of smoke danced through the air and tickled our noses. As she bowed her head in silence, I wondered what she was praying about. When she opened her eyes, she dipped a small bristled brush in holy water and sprinkled each offering three times. Mark turned to me and said: “She does it in threes. Once for each of...

April 11, 2020

On Becoming Her

Travel

Towards the end of my trip, I was walking to the Green Window for breakfast when a little Balinese man slowed his motorbike and came to a full stop in front of me. He greeted me warmly, like we were old friends. He said: “You love your life. You love your life so much. I see it here.” {Pointing to my third eye}. “You are wide open. Your heart is wide, wide open.” Taken aback by his astute reflection, goosebumps prickled on my skin. Why, yes. I did love my life.And my heart was more open than the sky. If only my new friend could see me two weeks later—home...

September 14, 2018

A Reminder For When You’ve Given All You’ve Got

Uncategorized

You don’t have to carry the weight of worlds on your back. You don’t have to be a dumping ground for negativity. You don’t have to hold space for those who don’t hold it for you too. It is not your responsibility to provide peace to every person on the planet. You do not have to take this on when and where and with whom you don’t want to. Your energy is your gift to the world. Your presence and the way you share it is a gift. And without discernment, this beautiful gift can tarnish and turn the most precious thing to rust. {Advice for you, and mostly me}....

August 16, 2016

Confessions & Boundaries: What Are You Willing to Receive?

Uncategorized

I have a confession to make. Up until this point, I’ve struggled with certain boundaries in my business—boundaries specifically related to honoring my value as a transformational Coach. Tell me if you struggle with this too, because I am totally guilty of offering mega-discounts on my services. Why? Simply put, it has everything to do with my own limiting story around money and worthiness. It also has everything to do with my well-intentioned heart—I just want to help people! So when someone says they can’t afford my services, I offer a discount, because I know how much they would benefit from working with me. This has got to stop though,...

May 17, 2016

Is the Universe Testing You? How to Become Unfuckwithable When a Curveball Comes Your Way

Business, Relationships

In life, there will always be curveballs.There will always be obstacles.There will always be people who doubt you and try to tear you down. The tricky part of living your truth and pursuing your purpose is that there will always be tests along the way. If the path were easy, everyone would be doing it. If there will always be tests, it’s not so much the tests you need to focus on, but rather, how you cope with them. So how do you cope with them? You need to become unfuckwithable. To be unfuckwithable is to be so rooted in your truth and purpose that nothing anyone says about how you...