What if you could create what you want in half the time? What kind of impact would that have on your life? The distinction between the fastest path and the longest path surfaced in my group program this week and I thought I’d share it with you, too. To take the fastest path at any given point on your journey: Identify the CORE OUTCOME you want to achieve vs. what appears to be on the surface. You can arrive at the core outcome by asking yourself: What am I trying to achieve by solving this? For example: Let’s look at time management. What are you trying to achieve by solving...
When Playing by the Rules Won’t Help You Win
Following rules has always been your strong suit. Whether that means following your own rules, others’ rules, or a combination of both. Following rules is safe. You know what’s expected of you, therefore, you know exactly how to avoid messing up. Rules keep your life orderly and neat. The same goes for your goals. You dream up a vision, break it down, and work out a system to create what you want {complete with a thick volume of rules to govern the game and WARNING labels to denote when you’re off track}. As long as you’re playing by the book, you feel good—you feel like you’re making progress. You witness...
How You’re Keeping What You Want Out of Your Life
Think about the thing you want, but you never seem to get. How are YOU keeping it out of your life? When I ask my Clients this question, they tend to get confused. “Why would I keep what I want out of my life, Kayla? I want it! I wouldn’t do that.“ Then, they try to convince me that the REAL reason they don’t have what they want is because of someone else or the circumstances they’re chained to. Other people can be a bitch. Circumstances can be a bitch. But they are not the reason you don’t have what you want. It can feel like other people or circumstances...
What If the Grass Really Could Be Greener on the Other Side?
When I take a peak into your world, this is what I see: I see that you live on a patch of green, green grass. You’ve spent years watering this grass and it shows. You’re proud of how green this grass is and your comforted by the feel of it beneath your feet… it’s what you know. On the outskirts of your patch of grass, there’s a fence. The fence keeps stuff out. You started building this fence when you were young, plank by plank, experience by experience. It hides the world beyond… and it hides the parts of yourself that you’ve deemed unworthy of water and light. Life on...
What Would Become Possible if You Stopped Stopping?
You’re either all the way on, completely off, or somewhere in the middle, revving up the momentum you lost from the last time you decided to stop. You’ve chosen greatness because greatness is who you are. And yeah—sometimes the journey gets tough and uncomfortable and like day fading into night, you want a break. You move from actively making your mark on the world back into yourself and the quiet stillness of an ordinary human life. You choose stillness because stillness is who you are too. The thing is though: Stillness will never be enough on its own. That’s because the other part of yourself—the part that’s here to lead...
The Stuff That Will Turn Your Dreams to Reality
The week before the new year is like a sacred sigh. It’s the culmination of celebration for what transpired and the {sometimes uncomfortable} realization of what didn’t. It’s a time to reflect on what you’re taking with you and what you’d like to let go of. It’s a time to envision what’s next. The week unfolds slow and fast, all at the same time. Possibility is palpable. You hold your breath, waiting for the first light of January when you can hit the ground running. The list of what you want to create is a mile long and there’s no time to waste before getting started. If you’re like me,...
Read This When You’re Feeling Stuck
The world is falling down around you.Negative thoughts cloud your mind like thick fog in early morning.Your chest is heavy with feeling. Lead weight. It’s hard to breathe. It’s another one of those days/weeks/months where you can’t seem to catch a break. You work hard to create what you want and just when things start to happen, an unseen force yanks you back to where you don’t want to be. Now you’re feeling stuck—as if you’re treading water in the middle of a lake and the fog is making it impossible to see the shore. You spend so much time here, treading water and searching for the shore, that you...
The #1 Mindset Hack for Making Your Dreams a REALITY
Identifying what you want in life and business is easy.Making your dreams a REALITY is an entirely different story. How do you reconcile the two? There was a particular day four years ago—October 1st, 2013 to be exact—when the U.S. government was forced to shut down, and all of the national parks were closed until further notice. While this typically wouldn’t be an issue, that day, it was. It just happened to be the day my best friend and I were leaving to go on our eight week road trip across the U.S. Our intention was to visit all of the national parks 🙈 From the moment we decided to...
When Did You Stop Growing?
If you only let in what “feels good,” are you shortchanging your growth? I used to be defensive as hell. I hated feedback. I hated reflections. {Even when people had permission to give them}. They made me cringe. They made me cry. I made them mean that I was “doing something wrong.” AKA: a major trigger for me. To protect myself, I was like water on canvas—I never let them sink in. In fact, I went to war. I was “RIGHT.” They were “WRONG.” And as a result, I defended exactly where I didn’t want to stay. That’s the thing with creating what feels impossible—the way you’re used to being...
What a Lack of Motivation Really Means & What to Do About It
It’s been raining in Massachusetts for a month.Every day has been cloudy, cold, and bleak.Winter is clinging desperately, digging its heels into the fresh soil of spring. While it would be easy to blame my lack of motivation in my business on winter’s inability to surrender, I know deep down that my energetic rut isn’t about the weather—it’s the same old pattern coming back around again. You know, the pattern you think you’ve healed, only to have it show up on your doorstep wrapped in different paper. For the majority of my life, I’ve struggled with getting stuck in a lack of motivation and cycling through energetic highs and lows....