Trailblazing

If You’re Feeling Stagnant…

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Kayla MacArthur

Where are you “waiting” in your life? What do you keep saying you want to do, but haven’t done yet? Over the past month, I’ve started to see all of the places where I’m waiting. I’m waiting to write until inspiration strikes. I’m waiting to hire my Coach at the 1:1 level. I’m waiting for my person to magically appear. I WAS waiting to ask for a raise at my part-time job, but I ended up doing that last week. {Yay!} The list goes on and on, from big things to little things and everything in-between. My mind wants me to believe that there will be a “right time”—that everything...

How to Create Connection When It’s Missing From Your Life

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Kayla MacArthur

Over the past couple of years, I’ve gotten really good at being alone—to the point where I could go weeks without talking to anyone outside of my business or immediate life. When I went to the Intensive in April, I realized this was bullshit. I remembered what it felt like to have supportive people around me and I woke up to how hungry I was for more of it. Getting really good at being alone is a really great strategy to deny a desire for connection. When you block something out, you don’t have to feel the hole of not having it. Nor do you have to deal with the...

I Was Never Aware of How Often I Make Myself Invisible…

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Kayla MacArthur

Whether that looks like dumbing myself down in conversation or dreading the question: “What do you do?,” it all leads back to hiding. While I knew hiding was going to come up because of the Rich Litvin Intensive, I never realized how often it seeps into my every day life. Bringing this strategy to the surface has been like shining a big ol’ spotlight so when it occurs, I actually SEE IT. Here’s what I’ve been seeing: -I become weird and awkward in conversation, especially if it’s with someone whom I perceive to be further behind on a shared journey. -I feel queasy when sharing my credentials and success {although,...

The Power in Declaring it Quits

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Kayla MacArthur

Not long ago, you were on top of the world when you declared: THIS! This is it! This is what I want to create next! With excitement fizzing through your veins, you generated a plan. You set goals and deadlines. You determined the actions you needed to take. You even took on some of those actions, riding the high that flows with forward momentum. And then—not ill-meaning on your part—you put the project down because other things required your attention too. And as you focused on those other things {rightfully so}, this beautiful, thrilling idea began to collect dust in the dark corner of your to-do list. The space between...

How to Create What You Want in Half the Time

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kayla macarthur

What if you could create what you want in half the time? What kind of impact would that have on your life? The distinction between the fastest path and the longest path surfaced in my group program this week and I thought I’d share it with you, too. To take the fastest path at any given point on your journey: Identify the CORE OUTCOME you want to achieve vs. what appears to be on the surface. You can arrive at the core outcome by asking yourself: What am I trying to achieve by solving this? For example: Let’s look at time management. What are you trying to achieve by solving...

When Playing by the Rules Won’t Help You Win

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Kayla MacArthur

Following rules has always been your strong suit. Whether that means following your own rules, others’ rules, or a combination of both. Following rules is safe. You know what’s expected of you, therefore, you know exactly how to avoid messing up. Rules keep your life orderly and neat. The same goes for your goals. You dream up a vision, break it down, and work out a system to create what you want {complete with a thick volume of rules to govern the game and WARNING labels to denote when you’re off track}. As long as you’re playing by the book, you feel good—you feel like you’re making progress. You witness...

How You’re Keeping What You Want Out of Your Life

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Think about the thing you want, but you never seem to get. How are YOU keeping it out of your life? When I ask my Clients this question, they tend to get confused. “Why would I keep what I want out of my life, Kayla? I want it! I wouldn’t do that.“ Then, they try to convince me that the REAL reason they don’t have what they want is because of someone else or the circumstances they’re chained to. Other people can be a bitch. Circumstances can be a bitch. But they are not the reason you don’t have what you want. It can feel like other people or circumstances...

What If Your Short-Comings Were a Gift?

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How often have you beaten yourself up for your perceived short-comings? Short-comings meaning: Things about you that do not fit with the image of who you should be or who you think you need to be in order to succeed. Think about your short-comings right now. And ask yourself: What do these things tell me about myself + what I’m really gifted at? On the other side of a perceived short-coming, there’s always a parallel and equal strength. But only if you choose to see it. Sometimes out of curiosity, I’ll open a LinkedIn email that lists job openings suited to my skills. I’ll peruse what the companies want in...

What Do a Guru and a Jerk Have in Common?

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You know better than anyone else. AND—you know better for everyone else. You see what other people can’t see for themselves and you use this gift to tell them how to close the gap between where they are and where they could be. Half the time, they praise you. Half the time, they don’t. {Half the time, they secretly seethe behind clenched teeth or become outright defensive and pick a fight}. You’re either a Guru or a Jerk, but underneath who they see, who you’re being is Fixer. Now before you become offended {if you’re feeling charged thus far}, I want you to know: Me too. My natural tendency is...

What If the Grass Really Could Be Greener on the Other Side?

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When I take a peak into your world, this is what I see: I see that you live on a patch of green, green grass. You’ve spent years watering this grass and it shows. You’re proud of how green this grass is and your comforted by the feel of it beneath your feet… it’s what you know. On the outskirts of your patch of grass, there’s a fence. The fence keeps stuff out. You started building this fence when you were young, plank by plank, experience by experience. It hides the world beyond… and it hides the parts of yourself that you’ve deemed unworthy of water and light. Life on...