Think about the thing you want, but you never seem to get. How are YOU keeping it out of your life? When I ask my Clients this question, they tend to get confused. “Why would I keep what I want out of my life, Kayla? I want it! I wouldn’t do that.“ Then, they try to convince me that the REAL reason they don’t have what they want is because of someone else or the circumstances they’re chained to. Other people can be a bitch. Circumstances can be a bitch. But they are not the reason you don’t have what you want. It can feel like other people or circumstances...
What If Your Short-Comings Were a Gift?
How often have you beaten yourself up for your perceived short-comings? Short-comings meaning: Things about you that do not fit with the image of who you should be or who you think you need to be in order to succeed. Think about your short-comings right now. And ask yourself: What do these things tell me about myself + what I’m really gifted at? On the other side of a perceived short-coming, there’s always a parallel and equal strength. But only if you choose to see it. Sometimes out of curiosity, I’ll open a LinkedIn email that lists job openings suited to my skills. I’ll peruse what the companies want in...
What Do a Guru and a Jerk Have in Common?
You know better than anyone else. AND—you know better for everyone else. You see what other people can’t see for themselves and you use this gift to tell them how to close the gap between where they are and where they could be. Half the time, they praise you. Half the time, they don’t. {Half the time, they secretly seethe behind clenched teeth or become outright defensive and pick a fight}. You’re either a Guru or a Jerk, but underneath who they see, who you’re being is Fixer. Now before you become offended {if you’re feeling charged thus far}, I want you to know: Me too. My natural tendency is...
What If the Grass Really Could Be Greener on the Other Side?
When I take a peak into your world, this is what I see: I see that you live on a patch of green, green grass. You’ve spent years watering this grass and it shows. You’re proud of how green this grass is and your comforted by the feel of it beneath your feet… it’s what you know. On the outskirts of your patch of grass, there’s a fence. The fence keeps stuff out. You started building this fence when you were young, plank by plank, experience by experience. It hides the world beyond… and it hides the parts of yourself that you’ve deemed unworthy of water and light. Life on...
What Would Become Possible if You Stopped Stopping?
You’re either all the way on, completely off, or somewhere in the middle, revving up the momentum you lost from the last time you decided to stop. You’ve chosen greatness because greatness is who you are. And yeah—sometimes the journey gets tough and uncomfortable and like day fading into night, you want a break. You move from actively making your mark on the world back into yourself and the quiet stillness of an ordinary human life. You choose stillness because stillness is who you are too. The thing is though: Stillness will never be enough on its own. That’s because the other part of yourself—the part that’s here to lead...
The #1 Mindset Hack for Making Your Dreams a REALITY
Identifying what you want in life and business is easy.Making your dreams a REALITY is an entirely different story. How do you reconcile the two? There was a particular day four years ago—October 1st, 2013 to be exact—when the U.S. government was forced to shut down, and all of the national parks were closed until further notice. While this typically wouldn’t be an issue, that day, it was. It just happened to be the day my best friend and I were leaving to go on our eight week road trip across the U.S. Our intention was to visit all of the national parks 🙈 From the moment we decided to...
When Did You Stop Growing?
If you only let in what “feels good,” are you shortchanging your growth? I used to be defensive as hell. I hated feedback. I hated reflections. {Even when people had permission to give them}. They made me cringe. They made me cry. I made them mean that I was “doing something wrong.” AKA: a major trigger for me. To protect myself, I was like water on canvas—I never let them sink in. In fact, I went to war. I was “RIGHT.” They were “WRONG.” And as a result, I defended exactly where I didn’t want to stay. That’s the thing with creating what feels impossible—the way you’re used to being...
What It Means to Love Your Darkness & Why Your Success Depends On It
I’m inflexible and rigid.An emotional roller coaster.I talk way more than I listen to the ones closest to me.I forget things easily.I can be so focused on what’s going on in my head that I completely miss whole parts of a conversation with my partner.I don’t have sustainable energy.I’m typically late for anything that requires my physical presence. And you know what? I love all of it. I love all of me. But it hasn’t always been like this. There’s a monstrous epidemic in our culture where we have become obsessed with our personal shortcomings; with all of the things we don’t like about ourselves. There’s a lot of pressure,...
3 Powerful Insights From a Rich Litvin Coaching Intensive
Before we left the Rich Litvin Coaching Intensive to go back to our lives, and a world that didn’t expand like we did, Rich encouraged us to sit with our experiences and insights—to keep them to ourselves and let them shift how we show up in the world. He encouraged us to let people feel our expansion, rather than talk about it. While I have every intention of honoring his wisdom, I also know myself well enough to know that my expansion integrates more deeply from turning around and teaching. While I can’t possibly fit the magnitude of what I experienced at the Rich Litvin Coaching Intensive into a single...
Are You Trying to Be Like Everyone Else When it Comes to Doing What You Love?
Maybe it feels safer that way. Maybe it makes more sense when you really think about it. Maybe it’s easier because then you don’t have to show people who you really are, or even deeper yet—you don’t have to admit who you really are to yourself. If there’s one thing I know about success, it’s that success only comes when you are 100% aligned. So if you aren’t experiencing the level of success you’d like to experience {or even some version of it, because yes, it does take time for success to unfold}, ask yourself: Where am I out of alignment? Am I doing what I’m doing in my life...