You know better than anyone else.
AND—you know better for everyone else.
You see what other people can’t see for themselves and you use this gift to tell them how to close the gap between where they are and where they could be.
Half the time, they praise you.
Half the time, they don’t. {Half the time, they secretly seethe behind clenched teeth or become outright defensive and pick a fight}.
You’re either a Guru or a Jerk, but underneath who they see, who you’re being is Fixer.
Now before you become offended {if you’re feeling charged thus far}, I want you to know:
Me too.
My natural tendency is that I am one hell of a Fixer.
It’s not that you or I have bad intentions. In fact—it couldn’t be more opposite. We care. DEEPLY. And we’d rather not witness someone else struggle or suffer when we can see so clearly what he or she needs to stop it.
The thing is though: When you automatically light other people’s path with your sight, you forget that they have their own. And it takes their power away to heal themselves.
What if you practiced being with them wherever they are?
What kind of impact could you create {for them and you} if you led with curiosity first?
What would happen if you gave them the choice to hear your feedback or not and then, another choice to use it or not?
The part of you that plays Fixer is a gift.
But the part of you that plays Mirror is too <3
With light, love, & food for thought,
-Kayla
P.S. During the month of February, I’m undertaking a massive challenge to gift away 28 sessions in 28 days! If you’d like to claim a complimentary Create the Impossible Coaching Session, email me at kaylamacarthurcoaching@gmail.com and share with me what you’re currently up to in the world!
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