Inner Work – Page 3 – Kayla MacArthur

November 13, 2018

Where Are You Directing Your Willpower?

When you want something, you want it. You’re persistent and determined. You’re in it for the long haul. You don’t give up or quit easily. It’s a blessing, right? It can be—when you’re using it as fuel to create more of what you want. Willpower is tricky because it keeps you in the game, but it makes it difficult to see when you’re playing for the other team. Just like willpower is the magic that conjures what you intend to create, it can be the bars that hold you back. Maybe you’re pinning all of your hopes and dreams onto a specific outcome that’s not in the cards for you....

June 29, 2018

The Light & The Dark: What I’ve Learned About Speaking Your Truth

Reinvent

One of the greatest acts of self-love is speaking your truth. When you’re driving yourself mad from bottling up how you feel, when you’re flat out avoiding how you feel, when you’d rather ignore someone important than share how you really feel, your truth goes unexpressed. While speaking your truth may be the scariest, most uncomfortable, most difficult thing you could ever do, speaking your truth will set you free. All that energy you’re using to hide? It will release, redistribute, and realign to something better. I’ve learned this. Many times over the years and especially over the past month. The thing about me is that I’m very intuitive. It’s...

May 31, 2018

The Inner Work I’m Up For in June

Reinvent

It’s easy for me to be a fine mist. It’s much more difficult for me to be a steady stream. Thank you to my Coach for this analogy, because now I can’t get it out of my head. How honest are you? How willing are you to say and do what’s true for you? How willing are you to ask for what you want, even when there’s a possibility of hearing “no” or letting someone down? I’ve always thought of myself as an honest person, but like everything, there’s a chance to embody more of it. I AM honest, but not everywhere. Sometimes, I want to work with someone, but...

May 4, 2018

The Risky Business of Heart Break

Reinvent

I feel the shield you carry. It’s heavy like armor—impenetrable. In many ways, we all wear armor. We wear it around our hearts to keep the hurt out. The longer life breathes us in, the more bruises we collect and sometimes, they stick around. The faint black and blue—a reminder to hitch the shield up higher because you never know what will come of what. People with the heaviest armor tend to have the most tender hearts. To bear all that love to the world—it’s like getting too close to the sun. It will burn all of you up. My own heart has been broken many times over the years,...

April 26, 2018

To the Ones Who Disappear

Create

We spend an hour together, diving deep into you. You see so much for yourself and I do too. You want so much for yourself and I want it for you too. As we talk, it feels electric. Like our paths were meant to cross. We look at what you want. We look at what’s holding you back. We look at what it would be like and feel like to receive support to get there. You say you think you’re ready and I challenge you. Are you sure? Because “thinking” and “being” are two very different things. We talk at length about how you might block support, in the same...

April 20, 2018

What Really Happens When You Attend a Rich Litvin Intensive…

Explore

It’s quickly becoming a tradition to pull out my lap top on the flight home from LA and sift through the weekend. This year, my reflection will be different. Putting transformation to words is difficult. It’s not the same as filtering information and spitting it back out. This is heart, not head. Going into the Intensive, my breakthrough was LIGHT. So, throughout the weekend, I wore the lens of light—I showed up as all of me. It was uncomfortable at times, but it was also surprisingly easy. If it took me a year to warm up, this year was my year to shine. And as a result, I found a...

April 12, 2018

I Was Never Aware of How Often I Make Myself Invisible…

Create, Reinvent

Whether that looks like dumbing myself down in conversation or dreading the question: “What do you do?,” it all leads back to hiding. While I knew hiding was going to come up because of the Rich Litvin Intensive, I never realized how often it seeps into my every day life. Bringing this strategy to the surface has been like shining a big ol’ spotlight so when it occurs, I actually SEE IT. Here’s what I’ve been seeing: -I become weird and awkward in conversation, especially if it’s with someone whom I perceive to be further behind on a shared journey. -I feel queasy when sharing my credentials and success {although,...

March 26, 2018

The Art of Transformation: How to Move Beyond Plateaus & Feeling Stuck

Create, Reinvent

Every week, you bring something different to me, but it always ends up being the same. There comes a point where we dance around the same conversation, over and over again. And while other Coaches would feel like they’ve failed you, I know we’re just getting started. I’m happy to be here with you—to witness you—because when it looks like nothing’s happening, everything is actually happening. More time goes by and even you begin to notice that wherever we start, we always end up at the same place. It’s the road you don’t want to walk down. It’s the door you don’t want to knock on. It’s the place you...

February 16, 2018

When Playing by the Rules Won’t Help You Win

Create

Following rules has always been your strong suit. Whether that means following your own rules, others’ rules, or a combination of both. Following rules is safe. You know what’s expected of you, therefore, you know exactly how to avoid messing up. Rules keep your life orderly and neat. The same goes for your goals. You dream up a vision, break it down, and work out a system to create what you want {complete with a thick volume of rules to govern the game and WARNING labels to denote when you’re off track}. As long as you’re playing by the book, you feel good—you feel like you’re making progress. You witness...

February 9, 2018

How You’re Keeping What You Want Out of Your Life

Reinvent

Think about the thing you want, but you never seem to get. How are YOU keeping it out of your life? When I ask my Clients this question, they tend to get confused. “Why would I keep what I want out of my life, Kayla? I want it! I wouldn’t do that.“ Then, they try to convince me that the REAL reason they don’t have what they want is because of someone else or the circumstances they’re chained to. Other people can be a bitch. Circumstances can be a bitch. But they are not the reason you don’t have what you want. It can feel like other people or circumstances...