We sit across from each other. You speak and I listen. I listen deeply—for what is said beneath your words. First, you tell me about your business. You tell me how frustrated you are. How people hardly ever buy from you. How no one can afford your fees. You tell me about your Clients. How they’re driving you MAD because they’re not committed to change. They say they want this thing that you can help them get, but they’re unwilling to put in the work to get it. Next, you tell me about your dreams. You paint a beautiful picture of possibility. It’s vivid and BIG. It’s all you want…...
Do You Experience Energetic Highs & Lows?
Do you give something your ALL, only to burn out? Feast or famine is typically something you think of when you think of money. It’s not so much something you think of when you think of energy.However, when feast or famine is the place you’re coming from, you tend to find it everywhere. It’s a cycle of extremes, where each extreme drives the other. It’s a cycle that can stretch over days, weeks, years—it doesn’t know time, it only knows high from low, up from down, everything from nothing and nothing in-between. It’s a cycle you can live in for life. And while you can create phenomenal things within its...
Let’s Talk About Selling
Selling products. Selling services. Selling skills. To preface this post, I want to say: Everyone I choose to work with is a good-hearted person.And if you’re reading this, I’m willing to bet that YOU are a good-hearted person, too. What I find, time and time again—for myself, for my Clients, for us good-hearted people—is that we think we have a sales problem when in reality, we have a BELIEVING problem. All selling is, is a vehicle for transformation.All selling is, is a vehicle for service. Whatever it is you sell, there is a purpose behind it that boils down to: I made this thing to support my fellow humans to...
Do You Believe in Magic?
When I was a little girl, I believed in magic. I believed in it so much, I thought I was a witch. I made potions from berries that grew wild in the woods. I cast love spells out of poems and flowers. I even made myself a silver wand and told my friends at school that they were witches too. As I grew up and my fairy tale faded, I stopped believing I was a witch, but I never stopped believing in magic. In fact, magic has only become MORE REAL over time. In 2011, I was shocked to learn that a week before graduating, I was the Valedictorian of...
The Art of Feeling: When Presence & Sovereignty Collide
Something I’ve been practicing recently is holding and giving space to how I feel, without acting on or withdrawing from it. I’ve been practicing slowing down to experience the fullness of what’s available to me as a human and to give myself choice in how I respond, when I choose to. For most of my life, things have been different. For most of my life, my instinct has been: How do I express this feeling or make it go away? To be human is to feel. And what I find true for me and my people is that we struggle to BE WITH how we feel. We tend to act...
Is Willpower Helping You Create More of What You Don’t Want?
When you want something, you want it.You’re persistent and determined. You’re in it for the long haul.You don’t give up or quit easily. Willpower is a blessing, right? It can be—when you’re using it as fuel to create more of what you want. Willpower is tricky because it keeps you in the game, but it can be difficult to see when you’re playing for the wrong team. Just like willpower is the magic that conjures up what you intend to create, it can also be a spell that holds you back. Maybe you’re pinning all of your hopes and dreams onto a specific outcome that’s not in the cards for...
What I’ve Learned About Speaking Your Truth: The Light & The Dark
One of the greatest acts of self-love is speaking your truth. When you’re driving yourself mad from bottling up how you feel, when you’re flat out avoiding how you feel, when you’d rather ignore someone important than share how you really feel, your truth goes unexpressed. While speaking your truth may be the scariest, most uncomfortable, most difficult thing you could ever do, speaking your truth will set you free. All of that energy you’re using to hide? It will release, redistribute, and realign to something better. I’ve learned this. Many times over the years, and especially over the past month. The thing about me is that I’m very intuitive....
The Inner Work I’m Up For in June
It’s easy for me to be a fine mist. It’s much more difficult for me to be a steady stream. Thank you to my Coach for this analogy, because now I can’t get it out of my head. How honest are you? How willing are you to say and do what’s true for you? How willing are you to ask for what you want, even when there’s a possibility of hearing “no” or letting someone down? I’ve always thought of myself as an honest person, but like everything, there’s a chance to embody more of it. I AM honest, but not everywhere. Sometimes, I want to work with someone, but...
The Risky Business of Heart Break
I feel the shield you carry. It’s heavy like armor—impenetrable. In many ways, we all wear armor. We wear it around our hearts to keep the hurt out. The longer life breathes us in, the more bruises we collect and sometimes, they stick around. The faint black and blue—a reminder to hitch the shield up higher because you never know what will come of what. People with the heaviest armor tend to have the most tender hearts. To bear all that love to the world—it’s like getting too close to the sun. It will burn all of you up. My own heart has been broken many times over the years,...
To the Ones Who Disappear
We spend an hour together, diving deep into you. You see so much for yourself and I do too. You want so much for yourself and I want it for you too. As we talk, it feels electric. Like our paths were meant to cross. We look at what you want. We look at what’s holding you back. We look at what it would be like and feel like to receive support to get there. You say you think you’re ready and I challenge you. Are you sure? Because “thinking” and “being” are two very different things. We talk at length about how you might block support, in the same...