Relationships – Kayla MacArthur

September 14, 2018

A Reminder For When You’ve Given All You’ve Got

You don’t have to carry the weight of worlds on your back. You don’t have to be a dumping ground for negativity. You don’t have to hold space for those who don’t hold it for you too. It is not your responsibility to provide peace to every person on the planet. You do not have to take this on when and where and with whom you don’t want to. Your energy is your gift to the world. Your presence and the way you share it is a gift. And without discernment, this beautiful gift can tarnish and turn the most precious thing to rust. {Advice for you, and mostly me}....

June 29, 2018

The Light & The Dark: What I’ve Learned About Speaking Your Truth

Reinvent

One of the greatest acts of self-love is speaking your truth. When you’re driving yourself mad from bottling up how you feel, when you’re flat out avoiding how you feel, when you’d rather ignore someone important than share how you really feel, your truth goes unexpressed. While speaking your truth may be the scariest, most uncomfortable, most difficult thing you could ever do, speaking your truth will set you free. All that energy you’re using to hide? It will release, redistribute, and realign to something better. I’ve learned this. Many times over the years and especially over the past month. The thing about me is that I’m very intuitive. It’s...

May 31, 2018

The Inner Work I’m Up For in June

Reinvent

It’s easy for me to be a fine mist. It’s much more difficult for me to be a steady stream. Thank you to my Coach for this analogy, because now I can’t get it out of my head. How honest are you? How willing are you to say and do what’s true for you? How willing are you to ask for what you want, even when there’s a possibility of hearing “no” or letting someone down? I’ve always thought of myself as an honest person, but like everything, there’s a chance to embody more of it. I AM honest, but not everywhere. Sometimes, I want to work with someone, but...

May 11, 2018

How to Create Connection When It’s Missing From Your Life

Create, Reinvent

Over the past couple of years, I’ve gotten really good at being alone—to the point where I could go weeks without talking to anyone outside of my business or immediate life. When I went to the Intensive in April, I realized this was bullshit. I remembered what it felt like to have supportive people around me and I woke up to how hungry I was for more of it. Getting really good at being alone is a really great strategy to deny a desire for connection. When you block something out, you don’t have to feel the hole of not having it. Nor do you have to deal with the...

May 4, 2018

The Risky Business of Heart Break

Reinvent

I feel the shield you carry. It’s heavy like armor—impenetrable. In many ways, we all wear armor. We wear it around our hearts to keep the hurt out. The longer life breathes us in, the more bruises we collect and sometimes, they stick around. The faint black and blue—a reminder to hitch the shield up higher because you never know what will come of what. People with the heaviest armor tend to have the most tender hearts. To bear all that love to the world—it’s like getting too close to the sun. It will burn all of you up. My own heart has been broken many times over the years,...

January 26, 2018

What Do a Guru and a Jerk Have in Common?

Reinvent

You know better than anyone else. AND—you know better for everyone else. You see what other people can’t see for themselves and you use this gift to tell them how to close the gap between where they are and where they could be. Half the time, they praise you. Half the time, they don’t. {Half the time, they secretly seethe behind clenched teeth or become outright defensive and pick a fight}. You’re either a Guru or a Jerk, but underneath who they see, who you’re being is Fixer. Now before you become offended {if you’re feeling charged thus far}, I want you to know: Me too. My natural tendency is...